Friday, August 10, 2012

Officially Expecting!

Jay and I have an exciting announcement…We are officially EXPECTING! We submitted our dossier, the entire compilation of documents we have collected over the past 5 months, on July 23. I have to be honest, it was a little hard to let go of! We have spent a lot of time, effort, and not to mention money collecting all of these documents and making sure they were meticulously correct.  Don’t get me wrong, we are thrilled that the paperwork process is largely complete (except for occasional renewals along the way), however this collection was the only solid thing we had that showed our progress towards bringing our little man home. Handing it over to the guy at the post office who barley smiled or made eye contact was a bit tough. As he was stuffing it into the envelope, I literally had to catch myself from saying, “Hey buddy, careful with that! do you have any idea what your stuffing in there?!” Thankfully, our package made it all the way Oregon, and after a few corrections, we now have something even more substantial to hold to…an official wait list number!

So, when can we expect to bring him home? Well, here is how the process works. Now that we are on the waitlist (which means that 115  families are waiting ahead of us for their child) we will get monthly updates on our wait list number. Now some of these families are waiting for different ages, sibling groups, and some are on both the girls and boys wait list, so the number will change according to the number of children that match the criteria of the waiting families. Once we get down to single digits, we can expect a phone call at literally any moment. Once a child is placed in an orphanage that matches our criteria (boy, under the age of 12 months) and we are next on the list, we are given a referral (the long awaited phone call). The U.S. embassy then makes several investigations into making sure this child is truly an orphan and if not, that any remaining family members relinquish all rights to the courts. The child also undergoes some testing for HIV, Hepatitis, and other diseases and we are given all available medical information to review with our international adoptive pediatrician. Once the phone call arrives, we have a small amount of time to decide whether we will accept the referral or not. I will get more into this process as we approach it. So in short, not a quick process, and we are said to anticipate a wait of about 18 months, however we KNOW that God is in control here and not the governments and paper pushers as we sometimes like to believe, so our son will be home when he is supposed to be. When we get our official updated monthly wait list number, I plan to update the timeline to the left on the blog accordingly.

So, what to do in the meantime? Prepare! Jay and I are starting to fundraise (as many may have seen through facebook posts). God has provided SO much this far in the process, but it’s time we also start planning. Our first fundraiser is a yard sale! We are asking anyone with items they are willing to part with (aka donate) to help lend a hand in making our yard sale a success to contact either Jay or I.  It will take place September 29th and 30th and we are willing to come get items and even help box them up! For those who may not have any items to donate, maybe just stop by that weekend! We have furniture, cloths, purses, household items and I’m sure lots of odds and end necessities for a simple donation. We also plan to have baked goodies and maybe even some of Jay’s famous lemonade available (actually its made from powder but still pretty tasty!). Ok, second fundraiser, we have a coffee storefront! What better way to support bringing our little bundle home than to sell something originally founded in his home country! We are working through Just Love Coffee Roasters, who helps raise funds for adoptive families, just by purchasing coffee from their store. Rob Webb and his wife Emily, who have adopted two girls from Ethiopia themselves, initially founded this unique fundraiser. The Webb’s found that many fundraisers for adoptive families were difficult and lacked a good sound model for helping financially support adoptions. They formed the Just Love Coffee Roasters fundraising program as a result, and it is very simple. Jay and I get the word out about the website and our adoption, and they do the rest, with some of the proceeds helping us along the way (any where from $5 for most bags to $19 for samplers!) It’s a great way for all you coffee lovers out there to enjoy the finest fair trade, organic, and shade-grown coffee beans from all over the world (including Ethiopia!), while also supporting bringing home our little nugget as well! Here is our store, stop by and check it out!
We also have a link and a video describing the fundraiser at the top of the blog.

Additionally, we are preparing by doing a lot of reading! There is a lot to learn when it comes to becoming a first time parent, particularly to an international orphan. These kiddos often are developmentally, emotionally, and physically behind for their age as the result of being in an orphanage when so many babies aren’t held, rocked to sleep, or even comforted when they cry (heart breaking). Thankfully, there are a lot of qualified professionals who have studied this and shared their wisdom through lots of publications, web seminars, and conferences. I am trying to make it my goal to always be in at least one book or educational session during this wait so we know what to expect and how to overcome the obstacles. We are also following a lot of other adoptive parents blogs and they are SO helpful because they are honest with what is going on and how they are managing. So, I plan to do the same. Who knows, maybe someone reading THIS adoption blog is feeling their heart being tugged towards the orphan crisisJ

Lastly, Jay and I are truly going to take this time in wait to grow together and spend and enjoy the time of just being “us”.  We have a lot of our friends and family relocating near us in Columbus, and we are enjoying ever second of being near them all! We are also continuing to volunteer at our church together, with the middle school ministry. We actually have a lot of adoptive kids, and they teach us endlessly about their perspective on adoption…invaluable information!
We have been praying together nightly for Ethiopia, help for orphans there, and our sons birth parents, and we are asking that you do the same.  Everywhere I look now I see Africa and Ethiopia and talk about orphans. Perhaps its because I’m more open to it now, but I see God making changes there and all over the world. Pretty hard not to see his fingerprints throughout this entire process and the hearts He is changing to help this world and all the people in it.   I found this quote recently and it totally shook me to the core…

Sometimes I'd like to ask God why He allows poverty, famine, and injustice in the world when He could do something about it. But I'm afraid God might ask me the same question.

Very powerful, so I had to share.

Ok, time once more for Ethiopian Education, my little opportunity to educate myself, Jay, and of course all of you, on our future son’s home country. This fact is very fascinating to me and I truly loved researching it. Did you know that Ethiopia claims that the final resting place for the Ark of the Covenant is in the holy city of Aksum, which used to be the capital of Ethiopia? The Ark is said to be located at St. Mary’s of Zion Church and has its own guardian. “The Guardian of the Ark of the Covenant” is a man who reportedly lives his entire life inside a fenced-off area surrounding the compound. He never leaves this compound, and will only leave when he dies and is replaced by the next guardian. Inside the chapel of the church are 30 robes of 30 previous guardians on display, with everyone of the 30 professing they have seen the Ark and are indeed guarding it from the general public. As we all know, this is a sacred object, but according to reports, it could become defiled and polluted if the world looked at it (which does follow what scripture says…). Apparently, the villagers (including the guardian) are all willing to sacrifice their lives if necessary to protect this Holy historic object. So, what does the Bible say about the Ark? Well, some people believe the Ark is a mute point now that the Messiah has come, but others believe the Ark is going to play a role during the period of time following the Messiahs future victory over the worlds system before he institutes His eternal kingdom on earth. What’s more, they point to Isaiah 18 vs. 7which states “In that time a present will be brought to the Lord of hosts from a people tall and smooth of skin (Ethiopians, according to verse 1*) to the place of the name of the Lord of hosts, to Mount Zion.” The present? Well…you guessed it…perhaps the Ark!…..Here is a bit of a diddy I found that CNN did on this topic…Enjoy!

                                  CNN story: Ethiopia and The Ark of the Covenant

*Isaiah 18:1- “Listen, Ethiopia—land of fluttering sails that lies at the headwaters of the Nile”- New Living Translation 


  1. Ileah! I'm SO glad you did introduce yourself!! YOU NEVER know...our babies could be BFF's and we could be traveling together!! That's so exciting to think about!!! :) Keep in touch...I am your newest follower.... :) My email address is lindsaydflood@gmail!! I look forward to your progress! :)

  2. Hi! I found your blog through a mutual friend's.

    My husband and I are adopting from Ethiopia through AGCI as well! We are SO excited. We are almost done with our dossier and look forward to the waiting list. Congrats on "officially expecting"!!! So excited for you!


  3. Can't wait to read all of your posts and follow your blog. I'm the dude that stopped by your yard sale last weekend with the adopted kids from Korea.

    Believe me, as you probably already know, there is something special about international my case I feel our family's love is stronger than if we did things the old fashioned way. Can't test that theory but I know it's true! I would adopt 100 times if I could.

    Best of luck and God bless!

    Tom, Hilliard, OH

  4. Sorry one more thing:

    I reread your post above. It is all about the power of God. During our fertility (infertility?) treatments, at some point we became discouraged and took a trip to Niagara Falls to chill out. We stopped at some refreshment stand and a little 4 yo boy (half caucasian/half asian)tugged on my pant leg and said "Hi I'm Johnny".

    Turns out his parents were from Dublin, OH and had adopted him from Korea thru an Ohio agency. we sprinted home and applied with that place. We ended up getting Johnny's social worker for our home study. 2 kids later I still can't believe the "irony" -- one man's irony is another man's act of God!!